Step into my office

I thought I’d just make my sexy retro self comfortable at my desk here and answer some mail.

(Ok, I admit it, I may have worn polyester and big belts and linebacker shoulder pads in 1986, but I drew the line at fake flowers.)

Anyway…

Recently, a few people have emailed me to ask me (very politely, bless them) about 1) my relationship with my husband and, 2) my experience with pro-domme work.

While I’m not inclined to answer a question just because it’s asked, I did realize that I haven’t really talked much about these two subjects even though I refer to them a lot.

So, for those of you who asked (so very sweetly), and also for those of you playing along at home, here’s the low down on both. Or, as Inigo Montoya would say:

Let me ’splain. [pause] No, there is too much. Let me sum up.

My relationship with my husband:

Basically, we are committed life partners. Period. So a few years ago, when we each realized how deeply different our approaches to both sexuality and spirituality really are, we came to the conclusion that renegotiating our previous agreement of monogamy was in order.

Since we are committed to loving and respecting and supporting each other from within the container of our relationship, we’ve renegotiated many things (sexual and otherwise) over the past few years in order to re-fashion that container so that it can continue to nurture us both as well as it always has.

So, the way we see it, we are now in a open, non-monogamous primary relationship (as we’ve defined it). Hence, my talk recently about both my relationship with my husband and my thoughts about seeking a relationship with a submissive man.

My pro-domme experience:

Well, it’s pretty tame, actually - by today’s standards, anyway. Long before teh internets changed the way sexual services were offered and sought out, long before the word Dominatrix could even be uttered in polite company, let alone become the subject of books on a publicly accessible shelf at Barnes and Noble, I worked with a very small exclusive clientele agented by someone I knew.

Basically, it was a friendly, almost casual agreement all around and I actually met some really great people… and only two real wack jobs. In other words, I have no glamorous dirt to dish. It was, on most levels, as I’ve said before, simply a job.

However, me being me, I did "travel" to some really interesting inner spaces with the men I worked with. And as I’ve talked about elsewhere, several of these instances ended up being life changing, spiritual experiences, sometimes for both of us. This certainly did not happen all the time, but more often than you might assume.

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Image: Oh-so retro secretary, from here

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And, for those of you who’ve gotten all the way to the end of this post, a bonus answer: I did play secretary, but it wasn’t at all like the movie. It was more like shut-up-worm-and-lick-my-shoes-cuz-I’m-the-Bossy-Bitchy Secretary… and not at all like sit-in-the-chair-till-you-pee Maggie Gyllenhaal secretary.

Don’t get me wrong, I actually adored the movie. It’s just that back then, it being the eighties and all, I hadn’t seen it yet.

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